I'm pregnant.

I am 25 years old, living with my partner of 4 years, we have a beautiful home and a dog...and I'm pregnant. I found out 3 days ago, which was a total shock.

My period was late but I had been unwell around the time of ovulation so assumed it was because of that. I took the test and it was positive. What surprised me is that I didn't feel anything, I didn't feel happy, sad, anxious, regretful. I just felt fine.

I had to tell my partner over the phone as he works away, he is in shock and we are going to discuss our options when he gets home. I think I want to keep the baby, but I'm nervous about what he is going to say.

I thought for sure I would want an abortion, but I started researching how developed a baby is at each stage and it shocked me how quickly it becomes a real little baby. I'm also feeling a lot of guilt because I had a bottle of wine across two days last weekend and also have taken two ibuprofen which is not recommended. I'm still not sure what I am going to do but hopefully my partner and I can come to the right decision together.

Editor's Comment Often your first reaction will indicate your feelings about a pregnancy as you don't have time to start rationalising about the decision. This is obviously a decision that you want to talk through and agree on together, but equally it has to be the right one for you as you are the one who is pregnant. 

In terms of drinking and medication, it is not usually a problem unless you were to continue drinking and taking Ibuprofen on a regular basis.