Part 2 from November 2008: Hi everyone. I’m writing this because I just want to let other people know who are out there facing the same situation as me.
By anonymous on 12/02/2009
Hi everyone. I’m writing this because I just want to let other people know who are out there facing the same situation as me. This is for the lady who wrote about her dilemma facing pregnancy with an ex and worried about letting her family down…I wrote in about three months ago back in November 08 and if you read my story then you will know what I’m rambling on about!!!! Anyway after loads of chopping and changing my mind hundreds of times, I’ve decided to go ahead with my pregnancy. I’m currently 17 weeks pregnant and despite going it alone yet again, I’m actually looking forward to the birth of my baby in the summer. I just want to let people know that there is support out there but you have to go and get it because it won’t just come to you. Whatever you decide to do in your own situation there is no right or wrong. It’s not worth beating yourself up about it. We’d all love to be in a situation where we have a loving partner etc. Everyone wants to live an ‘ideal’ life.
For me, I’m 34. I have one child of nearly six who means the world to me and brings me great joy. I work, I have my own place to live, I drive and I’m a very independent person. I’m lucky that I’ve still been able to do things with my son like go on holiday, days out, things we all love to do. If you put your mind to it you can achieve anything. Basically what I’m saying is by having a child on your own, without a partner there, is hard but it’s not impossible. If your family love you, then they will love you for the person you are, regardless of anything. It’s not a bed of roses doing this and sometimes it makes me feel scared but I know that there is support out there from my family and friends and other various sources like CareConfidential.
For me, this is the right thing to do in my life at this time. I hope one day I’ll find true love but in the meantime I’m going to concentrate on bringing up my children. I hope this brings some comfort and help to some of the people that read this. I’m not saying this is the right decision for some people because there is no right or wrong in whatever decision you make. Thanks for reading this. All the best...
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story with us…It will be an encouragement to know that others have managed to get along with an unplanned pregnancy despite the circumstances.